Love Stations

So many couples get into a relationship with love and bliss in mind also thinking of what you usually see in dramas and novels that people watch and read mostly on the female’s part. But what really makes a relationship? How can you improve a relationship when you operate on the blind? Because let us all face it, getting into a relationship could be a real rollercoaster ride and you could either come to enjoy it in the end or run away screaming bloody Mary. 

When you think about it a relationship is not any simple thing you could explain, it is not just some recipe where you could put up a list of ingredients and just put it all there- badabing-badaboom! It is as much a complex thing as what binds the two people in it- love. But that is not the only thing to make a relationship going. Let’s say you get excited at the prospect of finding someone to be in a relationship with and you are dazzled at the idea of falling in love yet in the end do you really get to scrutinize your relationship? When you dive directly on unknown waters what do you think will happen if you haven’t any training on life saving? How do you expect to save yourself in those waters if, say, in the waters there were sea weeds and you get trapped and dragged to the bottom. Loving someone isn’t just getting ready for you to be happy but also for you to get ready to be hurt no matter what circumstances because where there is love there is sure to be pain. Because remember not all people are the same and there is something bound to separate you two at some situations, say different beliefs or religion or culture. But when you really talk about it and resolve any differences you both have you will find yourself going forward and still holding each other’s hand. 

Just take it to mind that when you get into a relationship you really need to be sure of your decision. It may be easier though if you really know where you are both heading but you don’t. But some people prefer telling what their partners are after in a relationship, and it is a one up for you because you know the score, right? And it may not be as easy as it is in fairy tales and dramas but if you really love someone and you are willing to do anything for that person then why not take the risk. But always remember you need to think with your brain and not with your heart because sometimes doing that could do more harm than good and it would be an especially waste if you were the perfect couple then all of the sudden you were not all because of some riff you had. Everything needs to be thought over before you get into it. Spontaneity is great but sometimes that’s what gets you into some major trouble and you would not want that when you get into a relationship with  someone, it’s a fate more worse than operating in the blind- you’ll become a cripple with that and trust me when in the dark you do not want to be a disable. So talk, think and love safely.

Many people meet people at stranger circumstance. Take for example you stepped on someone’s foot and looked up to find a gorgeous angel or something like the movie “Sleepless in Seattle” where they happen to fall in love without even meeting each other. You could get the same and so much more given that so many opportunities like love station programs that match make and online match making sites present itself for your picking. The only thing you need to do when you find a particular person to get a bit closer to is that what do you actually do when you are already in from of that person? 

It is not a big surprise that these kinds of match making services are a huge success when people are so into anything involving the topic of love or finding the person you are to spend your whole life with. Some people might have already done this thing, then again many still are new here and there are so many things you need that should be covered before you get into this business. It is important thought that you both be comfortable at whatever you find out about each other or the circumstances on how you both happen to have met each other since some people get a bit squeamish about these things. As much as possible try to find out what your date is like, paint a picture in your mind about what he or she is like, what his or her likes and dislikes are but stay to reality as much as you can since we don’t want you getting into this with stars in your eyes. Giddy and excited, yes- but falling in love with a make believe, no. Many people tend to make the mistake of doing that sometimes, let me tell you that by doing that you are sure to fall into heartache. 

When you’ve already done all your homework you need to get ready with things that make you attractive to your dates eyes but do not go as far as actually changing yourself just to impress your date. Be yourself and see where it gets off from there. And when the big day arrives do not be nervous and if you are it is only natural though you really should cool down. It may seem a bit awkward at first and those first few moments of whether you both loosen up or still remain stiff towards each other is important to determine where you both are headed. Also, if you ever feel awkward try to tune it down especially if your date is intuitive. Just go with the flow and loosen up this is your chance to find true love so put a little backbone to it. Though  blind dates are just that, it is like operating in the blind since you haven’t ever seen the person you are meeting with and like all first meetings it could get a bit awkward but hey, you don’t know what you find in the dark. The person you are in with the blind date might be the light you were looking for in the dark and he or she may also be the forever you were looking for all your life.

So many people are so hooked up in things related to love. Books about love, dramas about love,  songs about love- you name it and they would love it all because of the happiness, the bliss you get out of feeling love. Also, I don’t know if you probably have noticed it, but left and right there are so many dating services that are popping up and people are lapping it up just to find happiness. Two of the media’s various mediums that offer you probably the fastest way to achieve your goal in finding your one true love. 

One is on matchmaking radio programs by way of phone patch. It is a fairly easy process since mainly the DJ will initiate the whole thing but you have to at least feel that you really want to do it or you want to go through with this because many people would have second thoughts in getting into anything like this- and it is totally understandable but if you really want to find a blind date then you need to find the strength to feel at least confident. Then the DJ might ask some personal questions like your physical attributes or what your likes or dislikes that could entice the opposite sex to call and maybe fix you up on a date. It may sound like something close to a piece of cake but it is not. Emotionally, you get to see where you will limit. Also, when there is someone who will go through the line you would want to make that someone like you are interested. The conversation that will go through between the both of you would be a bit awkward if you think too much about it since some part in your mind will scream at you that you are not having a personal conversation and it so happens that the third party is the entire populace listening in on that particular station. But as I have said, you need to feel that you are just two people who happen to have hooked up on a bar and having a private conversation- trying to see where this all would lead to and if your lucky and maybe you both feel kind of like pursuing this thing that you have but the difference would be is that both of you would meet face to face. 

Don’t let people tell you otherwise what to do when they think that resorting to these kinds of dating services is pathetic when its not. At the end, what is at stake is your happiness- the chance to love and be loved by someone other than your family. Everybody deserves to fall in love, to be heartbroken, and to stand up from the ground and be stronger. But it doesn’t actually have to resort to that especially if you feel that both of you are really meant to be together and that you both work at it, and besides they say that love is blind- and you might not know, maybe your blind date might be the one you are meant to love.

When you are in a relationship usually you get into it for either comfort in gaining something or for genuine love, but people who actually end up together for single purposes that they deem are enough to sustain a relationship are actually in for a bit of a misconception there. You can’t get into a relationship with stars in your eyes, trust me it is not all roses and flowers and what makes a relationship is that despite the things that you both aren’t in sync you still hold on to each other, for better or for worse. And since you all are probably a bit giddy to know on how to strengthen you relationship let’s get on to it. 

Spicing it with passion; we all know that what people usually want to find when getting into a relationship is a life full of love and happiness, but actually you need to give a flare to your relationship for it to stand through thick and thin and through your efforts you will know, if ever it ends, then you did everything you could. But when I say you need to give an effort when going into a relationship one way to make sure that the fire keeps on burning is adding fuel to the passion of love. Emotion isn’t the only thing that makes a relationship work but also it could make a huge difference when you have some physical compatibility with your partner. As I have said love isn’t the only reason you should get into a relationship- trust, fidelity, and yes- lust. Those things are the only the most important factor in making things work up till it binds things a little stronger than it usually is. Sex is one thing that usually makes things interesting, though, and my guess is that it is what makes a relationship a bit more exciting. A flare for surprises; when you talk about passion thou and lust and sex and all those physical wants that has to be in a relationship you have to kindle it as much as  you can- make the fire burn if you may. I may be a bit frank about this but men usually want something other than love when getting into a relationship and trust me it goes way into a primitive level when I say that they have needs. So what women need to do or they both should do is that they both need to have the trump card of surprise either with a new look or a new style or a surprise event that both person have been secretly wanting. Last is- feel worthy of each other; you can’t actually say that a person is worthy for the other just because they both made the obstacle of hardships that come to their way. There isn’t really a happy ending to speak frankly because and ending is just that, an ending. When you love someone you could probably only say that you have reached the happy ending when you died happy together which is a sure sign that you made things work at a right pace and then you know that you are both worthy of each other. 

People might say that love is enough- heck it’s even on a song, but it’s actually not. We strive so hard to make things work and we strive hard hoping that this relationship we’re in is the one and the last that we’ll be in but we don’t know that for sure. The only way we know that is for time to tell also in the efforts we made when in that relationship.

You know I read about this book that was really great and slightly erotic but at the same time you would really feel like you were falling in love. The book was about an agency, all female, who are dedicated to catch cheating spouses. The girls inside this agency have different appearances and personalities that you could typically find men fawning over inside a bar, and that is why they are an asset to their job because their clients choose from them and assign them to a trap and see if their other half fall for it by coming on to the assigned “agent”. Basically they try and see if the spouses of these wives are cheaters or have any trace of infidelity in their body. Both the main characters of this story have commitment issues because they were burned from the past and have become extreme cynic, you know about the saying, “Once burned, twice shy”? Well, they are probably pillars of this saying but towards the end they got past their issues and had the happy ending they both deserve. But in reality is it really that simple to look for the right person to love? If these kinds of agencies were really real in any state would you avail of their service? 

But this issue has been discussed and argued over for a very long time and here I am trying to make any worried or jealous partner stop and think for a while. Though the story was quite compelling and very romantic let’s faces it, this is real life and we need to face reality in order to find true happiness. There are numerous ways to find the person you are des tined to spend a lifetime with and most of these ways involve the multimedia. Most of the medium radios, TV, and internet are dedicated to just that and most of these are for free to guarantee that you really do find Mr or Ms Right. But is there really a guarantee? No, and it’s up to you to look for any loop holes just incase the person you’ve picked up on a site or was match made to you by a DJ though phone patch was really a fraud. But don’t be discouraged to go for the fastest way you could in finding true love because either way we are all bound to become disappointed when it comes to love and its all part of the ride. Like my favorite saying, “Love doesn’t make the world go round, but it is what makes the ride worthwhile”. 

When you really think about it, one way or the other we will experience to have loved and lost but one thing is greater than anything you will ever know and that is to have truly loved someone and know that he or she felt the same. Enough to stay forever with you as you will to him or her. Once you find the person you are destined to you will know that you have found a treasure greater than that you have known.